On Not Losing Your Humanity in the Middle of the Shitstorm
In a world of rising fascism, climate chaos, and attacks on queer and trans lives, how do we hold onto our humanity? Drawing on Viktor Frankl, Buddhism, and queer defiance, this piece explores how to stay tender in the middle of the shitstorm.
Tea with Demons: Buddhist Lessons for Navigating Queer Loneliness
Buddhism teaches that loneliness isn’t a problem to overcome, but a teacher to learn from. Drawing from queer life and the story of Milarepa’s “tea with demons,” this post explores how to meet loneliness with curiosity, compassion, and openhearted connection.
Mindfulness Isn’t Always the Answer
Mindfulness can be a powerful tool—but not when it’s used to suppress pain, pacify rage, or keep people quiet. This post explores how mindfulness gets weaponized in modern wellness culture, and why sometimes the most healing thing isn’t stillness, but expression.
Psychoanalysis Was Never Not Queer
Psychoanalysis is often dismissed as outdated or anti-queer—but its core insights suggest otherwise. A queer therapist explores how Freud’s theory of desire still speaks to rupture, nonlinearity, and queer liberation.
Your Trauma Is Not a Wrinkle: EMDR and the Medspadification of Therapy
EMDR is marketed like psychotherapeutic Botox—quick, sleek, and one-size-fits-all, but healing isn’t cosmetic. In this post, I reflect on why I stepped away from EMDR—and what real therapy can be.
On Aging, Mortality, and the Freedom to Be Real
Aging brings change, loss, and profound questions about meaning and mortality. This post explores how existential therapy can support older adults in facing life’s final chapters with courage, honesty, and freedom.
Listening to the Night: Dreamwork as Inner Dialogue
Dreams are messages from the unconscious—but only if we’re willing to listen. This post explores Jungian dreamwork as a way to deepen your inner life, with tips for starting your own dream journal practice.
Shame About Shame: The Queer Mind Under Pressure
Minority stress isn’t just about discrimination—it’s about the shame we’re taught to carry, and the shame we feel for not having “overcome” it yet. This post explores how internalized oppression shapes queer mental health—and how resilience, compassion, and authenticity can help us begin to heal.
Brilliant Sanity Isn’t a Goal—It’s Already Yours
“Brilliant sanity” is the Buddhist concept that beneath all our suffering, we remain whole. This post explores how contemplative psychotherapy draws from that view—and why true healing isn’t about fixing what’s broken, but remembering what’s already whole.
Shame, Survival, and the Velvet Rage
Being gay isn’t the cause of suffering—living in a world that punishes gayness is. This post explores how minority stress and internalized shame shape mental health, and what real healing might look like for queer men who are ready to stop running.
Beyond the Pill Bottle: Why Coping Isn’t the Same as Healing
The “chemical imbalance” theory of depression was never good science—it was good marketing. While medications like SSRIs can help some people stabilize, they rarely address the deeper roots of suffering. This post explores why true healing isn’t found in quick fixes, but in the long, brave work of making meaning in a messy world.